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Why and how to seek a therapist

Why seek therapy?

Life can get hard. Everyone struggles with stress, depression, anger and anxiety throughout life. These stressors can come from work, family, relationships and finances.
Stress, the effects and how we cope can give us signs that it is time to seek therapy. Some examples of negative effects of stress include but are not limited to :

Increase hopelessness – You feel there is no end to a current situation or you feel alone

Anger – increasing anger and irritation. The triggers that make you angry are unknown and you don’t have the ability to calm down

Anxiety – increase worry, isolation and the Inability to complete tasks

Decrease or increase in your sleep and/or appetite.

Suicidal thoughts– thinking that you are better off not living anymore or wishing not to wake up.

Homicidal thoughts -you want to hurt others.

Substance abuse– drinking more or increase in drug usage.

The Misconception about therapy

Often individuals are reluctant to seek out therapy because of the stigma surrounding mental health. They feel like only “crazy” people see therapists or they question the benefits /purpose of “talking to a stranger.”
Sometimes individuals wait it out with the hope that the feelings will pass but the problem is still there. Or feel they can only rely on friends and family members.
That support system is bias. Which means the attention and advice provided is based on your relationship with them and may not necessarily relate to you or how you would handle the situation.

You should not feel negatively towards wanting a therapist aka “the stranger”. The stranger will help you see the problem from various angles and identify existing problems.
A therapist will also provide nonjudgmental support, help answer and find solutions for your presenting problems. If Individuals do not appropriately deal/cope with past events that have affected them it will carry on to other parts of their life like continued negative relationships or negative impacts on life challenges.

How to find a therapist

Therapy does not have to be every week for a certain period of time, therapy can be fluid and work around your time and schedule. You can seek a therapist through your healthcare plan. Or find a therapist through Psychology Today and Good Therapy networks by searching who is located in your area and viewing their specialties.

While searching for a therapist it is important to remember that not every therapist will be a perfect fit. Each therapist is unique in their treatment method and it is important that you have a good rapport with your therapist. After each session you should feel like you are accomplishing treatment goals, are identifying problems, and feeling a sense of relief. My philosophy, “you have to shop for therapist like shoes, until you find the right fit .”

At JL Family Services, we have flexible schedules and offer a wide range of therapy options for individuals, families and couples. Come in for a consultation and see what options we have for your lifestyle. Therapy is not as painful as people imagine. With the right therapist you will be able to see progress and relief immediately.